Who Am I as a Communicator?

What is the one thing that surprised me was that my daughter and I scored me the same. Not because we do not agree but that we both agree that the test was not complete. We felt that some of the question did not apply but we had to answer to go to the next question. What other insights about communication did I gain from this week is that I am continuing to grown in this field.

1. I am respectful of the viewpoints and intelligence of other, and attempt to change their minds with gentle, inoffensive suggestions that do not attack thier self-concept.

2. I am empathetic and concerned with the emotions of others. This listenting style helps build relationships, but it can interfere with proper judgment because I tend to be very trusting to  others.

I feel my lack of communicating in my own culture is a problem.

I feel my lack of communicating with my own culture is a problem. The change in our children over the years has got to revolutionize and I do believe it has a lot to do with the lack of communicating.

I do not have problems communicating with people from different groups and cultures, however I do not understand some cultures and I know I have to work on it.  I do feel the dominate culture  believe in changing things the way they feel things should be and we all have to follow suit or reap the consequences. The Black community had great communication when I was a little girl. When I was a little girl we all got spanked when we were not doing something that we were suppose to be doing. We all learn from our parents and we knew how much they loved us. Parents did not have the problems we have today because we stopped communicating with each other. We had rules and our parents were not afraid to disciple their children there was a nonviable conversation between parents in your neighborhood  that if another parent saw you doing something you had no business doing you were spanked and sent home to get another one from your parents. Parents were not afraid of being arrested for disciplining their children. We did not have children using foul language and fighting each other and their teachers.  Communication stopped between parents and their children and there has been a change of who is in charged. Today the children are in charged and parents do what they communicate to them.  I do believe that because of lack of communication we are losing our children.  When we had communication with the whole community we did not have aggressive children and parents were not abusing their children. I believe the lack of proper communication between children and parent and the community is part of the problem.  I believe we let another culture influence the way we raised our children and now we do not communicate with our neighbors much less the disciple another person child.  I believe that we have to make a change I am not sure how this is going to happen but starting with communicating with our neighbors will be a good start.  

Messages Communicated Through Body Language and Facial Expressions.

The television episode I choose was Blue Bloods I have never seen it but I have always wanted to. The television show is about a family that works in the criminal justice area, such as police, and lawyers. When looking at the episode without the sound I observed no eye contact many times, also many of the brows of the characters were drown up which means ether concern or anger.  I saw very little smiles in the episode until the end; however I did observed arms folded and shoulders moving up and down with angry faces.  Many times when they were in court I observed irritated faces by the lawyers.  

The assumptions I had while looking at Blue Bloods without the sound was that there was a lot of arguing and conflict between the lawyer and the police officer. However after looking at the episode with the sound on I found out that the lawyer and the police officer were brother and sister and the brother was testifying agents his sister the lawyer. I am not sure way there was no eye contact other then they just did not look at each other while talking. I do now understand why the brows on their faces, and the folding of the arm.  I would not have this assumption if I watched at Blue Bloods.

I enjoyed this assignment; I notice that I am watching what I say to people and how I hold my arms. I also listen to what is being said to me before I speak back.  I also enjoyed Blue Bloods and I just might start looking at it